Why You Cannot Recover From an Eating Disorder Alone
Many individuals who struggle with eating disorders and body image distress also happen to be fiercely independent. This means that many of us struggle to ask for help when we need it and believe that we can figure everything out on our own. Sound familiar?
It is not uncommon to think, “Okay, I’m finally ready to recover from my eating disorder… but I can do it by myself.” I know this is a hard pill to swallow, but you cannot DIY eating disorder recovery. It is nearly impossible to recover from an eating disorder alone. Here’s why:
Accountability - Some of the hallmarks of eating disorders include secrecy, denial, and isolation. These behaviors can make it incredibly difficult for individuals to hold themselves accountable for their own recovery. External support systems—whether through therapy, support groups, or trusted friends and family—offer a framework for accountability. Even though it’s uncomfortable, we need people to challenge us and compassionately call us out when our eating disorder is in control.
Complexity - Eating disorders are too complex for us to untangle by ourselves. Eating disorders are not just about food; they are intertwined with emotional, psychological, and sometimes even biological factors. This complexity means that self-management alone often falls short. We all have blind spots! For many, disordered eating patterns are deeply rooted in unresolved emotional issues, trauma, or negative self-perceptions that cannot be addressed—or even recognized—in isolation. Professional help, including therapy and nutritional counseling, helps us to navigate the intricacies of the disorder.
Connection - Because eating disorders thrive in loneliness and isolation, connection with others is often an antidote to the illness. Many of us develop eating disorders because we are lonely in the first place, so isolating ourselves even further usually does not do us any good. Connection with others—whether it’s a therapist, a peer, or a loved one—allows us to realize that we are truly not alone. Connection can help us to build purpose, receive and provide support, and foster a feeling of true belonging.
Professional Expertise - Having a solid care team is key in recovering from an eating disorder. A care team for an eating disorder often includes a licensed therapist, a dietitian, and a HAES-informed physician. Clinicians are trained thoroughly in caring for individuals with eating disorders and supporting them in achieving their goals. While support from loved ones is invaluable, it is no replacement for the expertise of an educated clinical team.
Eating disorder recovery can be extremely daunting, but with the right people on your side, it is POSSIBLE to achieve food freedom and body acceptance. There is no shame in asking for help!
I know that accessing eating disorder care is not always simple due to a range of barriers. This is why many providers (including myself!) are dedicated to making treatment more accessible. To learn more, send me an email at eada@morningbirdtherapy.com!